Dear Ladies,
If you have any difficulties with our dating site or any ideas to share, we will be pleased to get feedback from you and give help, whenever possible.
Please, see relevant sections of our FAQ to find answers to your questions, or some pieces of advice or hints how to use InterFriendship web-site.
If you have an exceptional case and there is no ready-made answer to your question, please, contact us. Below you can find the link to our Support form.
Best regards,
InterFriendship Team
Frequently asked questions (FAQ)
General information about InterFriendship site
Dear Ladies,
The Internet is a virtual world with Man and Woman being virtual characters created in the imagination of each other on the basis of web-pages with photos and personal data. Searching for the right partner to have a long lasting relationship with is a serious goal-oriented job. So, these are the fundamentals to start with ...
1. Before your proceed with filling in your questionnaire or uploading your photos you should clearly decide what image of yourself you would like to create: a business woman, or a romantic, sensual and pretty housewife, or a femme fatale, or whoever else. So, now you should think whether the photos you picked for your presentation for online dating and information you provided in your questionnaire comply with that image and, which is more important, with your real self. It’s really crucial! Otherwise men can feel your insincerity and reject your profile.
2. Then think about the image of the man you are looking for: his appearance, occupation, social status, lifestyle and thinking, hobbies, etc. Look through your answers once more, since your requirements to your future partner can be so tough that there is hardly a man in the world able to satisfy your imagination. If so, just revise your criteria to decide which of them are the most and the least important for you.
3. Here goes a very important step! Compage your image with that of the partner you are looking for.
Do your requirements correspond to your abilities? Are harmony and affection possible between these two images? May be you should make your requirements to your prospective partner less stringent. Don’t be idealistic, be realistic about things! Approaching your own SELF from a critical perspective at this step will help you find a partner more quickly and avoid disappointment in the future. If you have decided to start a serious relationship, be ready to compromise from the very beginning!
4. If you think that both of your images are all right, then LOOK AT YOUR PHOTOS AS IF YOUR WERE A MAN.
General considerations: Will the type of woman in the picture be attractive for the type of man from your dreams?
Specific considerations: Are your photos good and expressive enough? Do you look pretty nice in your photos? Do you have a friendly face (Can one see your face in the photo)?
On the Internet the game is tougher than in real life: if your photos are not impressive enough for a man looking them through, he will never ask your name, view your profile, buy your address or write any message to you.
5. You will have more chances, if you take the initiative and try to strike up an acquaintance instead of just sitting and wanting for romantic love, when the man from your dreams finds you among thousands of dating sites. TAKE THE INITIATIVE! Send messages to men through our men’s catalogue!
6. The last, but not least … Whatever happens, never give up and never lose self-confidence. Never stop seeking your other half! Certainly, men seeking via the Internet is a kind of lottery, in which everyone hopes to hit the jackpot. However, not everyone will be lucky enough to win or to win from the first attempt. Nevertheless, life without a dream has no sense at all.
If you’re already tired of waiting for your dream to come true, then repeat steps 1 to 5 described above.
We wish you success and hope you’ll meet the man of your dreams!
If you have this question, it’s high time you understood that the Internet is a virtual world with Man and Woman being virtual characters created in the imagination of each other on the basis of web-pages with photos and personal data.
If you receive no messages from men, maybe you should change something? A critical review of your questionnaire is the best thing to begin with.
1. Maybe the quality of your photos is not good enough, or your photos are dull and banal?
So, replace them! Take and upload bright, clear and lively pictures that would attract men.
Remember: on the Internet the game is tougher than in real life. If your photos are not impressive enough for a man looking them through, he will never ask your name, view your profile, buy your address or write any message to you.
Important! You can not delete by yourself any photos from your Public Photo Album on our site. For more details see appropriate section of FAQ.
2. Maybe your questionnaire is not (completely) filled in or you left blank optional fields?
You should correct this omission as soon as possible! Western men will hardly buy a pig in a poke. They want to have at least some information about you, your character, job, family, children, interests, views, dreams, wishes, goals, preferences, etc.
Are you looking for a man of your dream? Then it is advisable that your text have something special that would drive a man to a conclusion that you are a special and unusual woman, with whom he will have understanding, share views and interests.
Help a man to choose you!
Harmony between the image created by your photos and the image created by words you use to describe yourself is very important!
3. Have you uploaded your best photos and written an exciting text about yourself, but still don’t receive any messages?
Try being more active! Our experience shows that western men welcome any initiative from women. So, if you are looking for a man of your dream you will have considerably more chances to find him, if you take the initiative and try to strike up an acquaintance instead of just sitting and waiting for romantic love, when the man from your dreams finds you among thousands of dating sites.
For more details see appropriate section of FAQ.
4. Have you uploaded your best photos, written an exciting text about yourself and actively send messages to men from our men’s catalogue, but don’t receive any reply?
Probably, you should revise your criteria. Please, read section "The way to successful online dating".
Attention! InterFriendship Support Team can not answer why you don’t receive any messages from men. Thank you for understanding and good luck!
Most InterFriendship male users are serious and decent men from Germany, Switzerland and other West European countries, tired of loneliness and willing to have a family. Similarly to you, they have not yet met their partner in their native country, so they decided to try finding their other half through our international dating site. For many men from our men’s catalogue this is their first online dating experience. So, try not to be very strict and be tolerant with them. :-)
Unfortunately, we must admit that we can not guarantee for 100% that among thousands of our male users you will never meet the so-called sex-tourists or married men who just have some problems in their family and are willing to escape their problems through online dating and make sure they’re real machos ...
To avoid unpleasant experience and not to waste your feelings, emotions, money and time, please follow our tips provided in the section "Online dating - security measure" and in InterFriendship newsletters. This will help you avoid disappointment.
New online friends will be an interesting and exciting experience, if you learn to analyze messages and behaviour of men to identify and reject those who are unlikely to become a reliable and "long-term" partner for you to have a family with.
Your profile
The registration is completed after you've reached step 4 of our questionaire: You will get an InterFriendship-Code (IF-Code) for your presentation which is also your login username.
To complete your registration you should fill in all required fields on the first four pages of your questionnaire, following which you will get your personal InterFriendship-Code (IF-Code) to log in to our dating site.
If due to whatever reason you are unable to fill in your questionnaire and to complete registration, you can do it later.
To do this:
- check your mailbox and open one of our e-mails: verification mail, a reminder to complete the questionnaire or InterFriendship Matches;
- click the Login-Button and you will land at our homepage;
- enter your password to login;
- proceed with filling in your questionnaire
If you don't have e-mails from us anymore you can request a re-verification message here.
ATTENTION! Every profile will be activated manually by the InterFriendship Team only after all verifications and data/photo/text processing are complete.
That’s it! Welcome to InterFriendship dating site! We hope that you will be satisfied with your interaction with the InterFriendship Team and your communication with our guys!
No! multiple registrations are not allowed according to the terms of use of our website.
To avoid confusion, every woman can have only one InterFriendship Code. All subsequent profiles will be deleted.
Repeated abuse of this rule leads to entry your data into our blacklist.
Thank you for your understanding.
If any changes have happened in your life, or if you have moved to another location or changed your mobile phone number, e-mail or Skype user name, or your priorities and wishes regarding your prospective partner, then you need to update your profile, if you’re still seeking your Mr. Right.
Doing this is easy: log in to our dating site, go to the "My Questionnaire" section and review your personal data page by page, updating them as necessary.
Please, pay attention that if your answer is not accepted, this means you have made a mistake or omitted a question. Please, read the comment written in red to have a hint what should be corrected.
ATTENTION! In some cases the InterFriendship dating site administrator may forbid you to change certain information in your profile. More information is available at the section about "Automatic messages about certain InterFriendship features being forbidden".
So if you wish to start the search for a man of your dream using our dating site - please upload in your profile some technically good and nice photos.
Dear Ladies!
As you know, numerous dating sites have millions of profiles of women seeking a boyfriend. The competition is really tough. As a rule, when seeking a partner through dating sites men base their choices first of all on photos.
Therefore, please, spare neither time nor effort to make your photos unique and impressive. You should not take the love-me-as-I-am approach to your photos for online dating.
Your profile is your advertisement, and any advertisement is expected to attract attention, not to repel.
Your photos are the face of our site!
If your photos have been rejected by InterFriendship administrator, we will not accept any objections or engage in any discussions.
If you are seriously seeking a partner for a life, placing only professional photos is not recommended. Very often amateur photos can tell about your character and mood much more.
You need at least one portrait photo and at least one full-height photo to create your profile for online dating. The quality of your photos should be so that a man could recognize you, if you have a real-life date.
Please, see section "Reasons why photos might not be displayed" for more information about reasons why your photos may be deleted/rejected.
There are several reasons why your photos are not displayed in your presentation on InterFriendship dating site.
1. Your photos have not been uploaded due to some reasons, such as:
- server failure;
- Internet connection failure;
- You attempted to upload a file that is too large (bigger as 20 MB), so your photos were not transferred completely;
- You attempted to upload a file of a wrong format (only .jpg files are accepted).
2. Your photos do not comply with our technical requirements:
- photos are too small, and it is impossible to recognize you;
- combined (e.g. collage) or retouched photos;
- distorted palette or proportions on your photos due to the use of a poor-quality digital camera;
- darkened, light-struck, unclear/blurred photos, etc.;
- passport photos;
- photos with logos of other web-sites;
- etc.
3. Your photos do not meet ethical and aesthetical requirements, such as:
- obviously outdated photos
- naked / topless / porno photos
- vulgar photos;
- aggressive photos;
- photos where you look much older than the age in your profile;
- etc.
Attention! Only those photos will appear on our dating site that in the opinion of InterFriendship Team comply with our requirements and will help you succeed in online dating!
If your photos have been deleted, our Support Center Team will not be able to restore them or provide any explanations!
Important: we adapt the photo to our specific frame, which is narrow and high. Therefore it is often impossible to make your favorite horizontal picture the main: a part of the face or hair can be cropped, what makes the photo not attractive.
If your photos have been accepted, they will appear in your presentation online 2-5 days after you upload them.
Only those photos will appear in your presentation that in the opinion of InterFriendship Team comply with our requirements and will help you succeed in online dating!
Usually, we choose 2-5 best photos to display in your profile in our dating gallery.
To check the status of your photos:
- log in with your IF-Code and password
- go to the "Photos" page
- klick "Upload photos for your presentation"
- place the cursor over any photo you like - you will see the status of this photo at the moment.
If any of successfully uploaded photos missing in the folder "My photos", it means it is deleted by the InterFriendship administrator and it can not be restored.
If you have uploaded photos, but none of them appears to be in your profile, please check the following:
Are you trying to upload a photo in a format other than .jpg? Please, change the format of your photo and re-upload it.
Have you already uploaded this photo before? In this case double will be automatically deleted.
Have you not filled in your questionnaire? Please, complete your questionnaire as soon as possible. Once you save your personal data, you will be able to upload your photos.
For other possible reasons why there are no photos in your profile please, study carefully information provided in section "Reasons why photos might not be displayed".
Should your photos be visible to anyone or only to selected users? With our dating site your have an opportunity to choose.
Use public photo album to upload photos for your online presentation. Such photos will be checked and processed by InterFriendship administrator before they will be displayed on our dating site. Following activation (1-5 days after your upload your photos) the photos in this photo album will be available to all InterFriendship men.
You can remove new photos from your public album yourself, but only within 30 minutes after you've uploaded them.
After 30 minutes photos can be deleted only by InterFriendship administrator!
upload new photos to our dating site
make sure that your photos have been accepted (see section "How to check whether IF has accepted a photo?").
using the Support Center contact form, submit a message with the number of the photo in album or describing the photos you would like to delete. We will try to satisfy your request within 1-4 day(s).
Attention!
- Your new photos must have GOOD quality and be aesthetically attractive
- New photos must present your better that those already available in your profile
You can remove new photos from your public album yourself, but only within 30 minutes after you've uploaded them.
After 30 minutes photos can be deleted only by InterFriendship administrator!
If you want to remove any pictures from your presentation please, send us a message with the number of the photo in album or describe with as many details as you can the photo you would like to delete. We will try to satisfy your request within 1-5 day(s).
Note: Deleting ALL photos from your presentation is impossible! Our software requires that at least one of your photos always remain in your profile. This photo can only be replaced with a new one.
Use private photo album on InterFriendship dating site to upload your favourite photos you might want to attach to your messages sent through our men's catalogue to a particular man. These photos will not be available to any other InterFriendship men. Your Private Photo Album is not subject to moderation by the dating site administrator.
You may delete any photos from this photo album by clicking the cross to the right of every photo.
Private Photo Album Tips:
Add to your Private Photo Album photos that are not available in you Public Photo Album. The photos in your presentation will be displayed to men on our dating site, while new photos that are not available to all dating site visitors, but only to your potential partner cause more interest and liking in men.
The height of your photos should not exceed 800-900 pixels, otherwise your photo will be displayed in parts, making perception more difficult and reducing the effect.
Photos you send to men in your messages should emphasize your merits and should not be worse than those in your profile.
Attention! Your private photo album is controlled by InterFriendship administrator. If you upload porno or any other obscene photos, your profile may be deleted from our dating site and you may be blacklisted.
It is not obligatory but desirable to place video in presentation.
Dear ladies,
Western men, first of all, pay attention to profiles with videos. So, upload an impressive video to increase your popularity among western men on our dating site. Maybe, it is video that will help your life partner find you. Who knows ...
Our web site has two options: you may either upload ready-made videos to your profile (recorded with the help of a usual video camera, your mobile phone, etc.) or you may use our software to record video directly to your profile with the help of your webcam or a video camera and a microphone connected to your PC.
Please, register with our dating site and go to your personal page "Photos">>"Video". Please follow the instructions there to upload or record your videos.
We will be glad to see your exciting videos on our dating site!
We don't accept videos:
- containing copyrighted materials (e.g. music or commerical videos)
- containing your contact details
- low quality
- very short clips (less than 20 seconds)
- obviously outdated
- irrelevant
- clips, where you are difficult to recognise
- naked / topless / porno clips
- etc.
Your data, texts and photos are checked and activated manually by the InterFriendship Team.
Two to five days after you complete registration and upload your photos you will find your profile in the gallery at InterFriendship dating site.
If you decide to stop men seeking through our dating site, then you can delete/cancel your profile.
Please, log in to our dating site and click "Remove my presentation" on the navigation panel. Then select the appropriate reason and save your settings.
You can restore your presentation on InterFriendship site at any time.
To restore your presentation on InterFriendship web-site, please, log in to our dating site and click "Restore my presentation" on the navigation panel. Save your settings.
Please, check your data at the "My Questionnaire" section, updating them as needed.
You may also update your profile at our dating site by adding your new photos.
Attention: if your presentation was removed from our dating site because you got married or was blocked by the InterFriendship administrator, please, contact us to restore your presentation.
If you want that your profile be visited by a lot of men, if you want your profile appears on the first pages of our ladies catalogue more often, then:
- Log in to our dating site more often.
- Regularly send messages to men from our men’s catalogue.
- Update from time to time photos in your profile at our dating site.
There are several reasons why your profile can be removed from InterFriendship dating site.
1. Some time ago you changed your profile status to offline. If you still want to use our services, please, read the section "Restoring your profile".
2. You failed to reply to our automatic letter for data verification and your profile has been blocked by our software.
If you still want to use our services, please, report this to us through form for contact with InterFriendship and in future you should read carefully messaged from our dating agency.
3. You have multiple registrations at our dating site, which is not allowed. To avoid confusion, every woman can have only one InterFriendship Code. All subsequent profiles will be deleted.
4. You have not used our dating site for a long time (1 month or more): you did not log in to our dating site, or send messages to men from the catalogue, or reply to our messages with a request to upload/change your photos, etc. This means you are not interested in men seeking and using our services. Therefore, your profile will be closed.
5. Your InterFriendship profile may also be deleted, if:
- Your data and/or photos have been found on scam-site(s);
- We have detected any signs of fraud by you;
- We have found any false data and/or photos in your questionnaire;
- Men regularly complain that you send neither positive nor negative answers to their e-mails;
- You ignore requests for additional information from InterFriendship Team.
Communication with men
Tips for writing your first message to a western man
- The topic of your message is very important, because until the addressee man buys your e-mail, he will be able to read only the header of your message, not the body. So, try to make the header (topic) of you message short, but original, so that to cause interest in the address.
Let’s assume that the man is intrigued by the header of your message. The next question is whether that guy will buy your e-mail to read your message and reply to you... Here everything depends on the text of your first message – whether it causes any interest, invokes imagination and desire in the man. - Your first message should not be too long. You will have an opportunity to tell about all aspects of your life in further messages. You may tell about your interests and requirements to your potential partner in your questionnaire, so that men could learn some basic information about you before they buy your e-mail and message.
- It is important that your first message tell why you have chosen HIM and why he should choose YOU!
- Don’t forget to include some compliments to him in your first message, since men like compliments as much as women do.
- Don’t include any data from your questionnaire in your first message, since they are already available in your questionnaire. Repeating personal data from your profile can be viewed by men as banality and lack of imagination.
- Don’t write about your negative emotions and problems in your first message.
- Try to write something personal and romantic.
When a man comes home after a working day and sits down in front of his computer, he wants to have some rest, relax and get some positive emotions. That’s why they send messages to women from Eastern Europe that still have some warmth in their hearts, womanhood and romanticism.
We wish you success and interesting communication with men - InterFriendship users!
Message writing skill is one of the key factors to partner searching through dating sites.
Exchanging messages with western men it is recommended that you:
- write positively
- reply quickly
- do not disappear for a long time without prior warning
To make your correspondence with a foreigner exciting for you both, try to create a kind of a live dialogue by expressing not only your thoughts, but also your feelings and emotions. Feel free to use a lot of smileys or exclamation marks in your messages. Any man will feel that he is "the only one" reading "Hi!!! I felt so sad and lonely in the morning … But I got a message from you :-) And the world is nice again!!! ..."
Learn to analyze HIS messages, i.e. his likes and dislikes, his expectations from his future partner, what he is ready to give to a woman, what information he would like to know. Don’t hesitate to ask about different aspects of his life, since this will make him feel that you are interested in his personality.
Don’t try to strike a man with your intelligence and wit, since western men are mostly intersected in WOMEN with whom they feel easy and comfortable, strong and clever, and with whom they can be real MEN.
Your message should make the addressee believe that you are happy to get messages from HIM, that he is the best one and that you feel him to be somewhere near you, even if he is not. In this case no matter how stressful and long his working day was, he will be sitting for hours in front of his computer waiting for your next message ...
Everything is possible today, including exchanging messages with West European men without foreign language skills.
If you’re seeking a partner from abroad, but you are unable to translate your messages to/from foreigner, please use an online translator.
Tip: If you use an online translator, write simple and short sentences. This will make translation easier and will not distort the sense of your text. Please, avoid grammatical mistakes!
You should also start learning German. If you are seeking a partner from Germany, Austria or Switzerland, these skills will be essential for you.
Good luck!
Please, do the following to contact a man from InterFriendship men’s catalogue:
- register at our site
- fill in at least 4 obligatory pages of your questionnaire
- upload some nice interesting photos
After your profile will be activated through our administration you will get possibility to contact men from our catalog.
Then go to our men's catalogue. If you like the profile of a man, then you can:
- Save it in "My Favorites" by clicking the heart symbol on the man’s photo. The man will get a message that you liked his profile. If he likes yours, then he may buy your e-mail and send a private message to you.
- Click the photo of the man to view additional information about this man, or send a message to him through our server by clicking the "Write a letter" link or the button under the man’s photo.
Think how to make your message interesting; create a short, but informative message. You may also attach one of your best photos from your Private Photo Album to your message.
Attention! If your do everything right, once you click the "Send the message now!" button, you will see the following "message sent" confirmation:
| Your message was sent to Xxx. We hope that you will get a quick reply from Xxx! Do you want to send a message to another man? Back to our Men’s Catalogue | |
No confirmation means you made a mistake or there was a technical failure when sending your message. Please, send your message once more.
Important! You message will be delivered to InterFriendship "store", and the man will get a notification that a message addressed to him was received, with your personal identification code (including a link to your profile) and the header of your message specified therein. The body of your message and your private photos attached thereto are not yet visible to the man.
If the man likes your profile, he will have to BUY your e-mail and will receive your message together with your e-mail address. A reply from the man will come to your personal e-mail.
If your profile has already been activated, i.e. you can see the state of your profile "online" (on your personal page "My IF"), then your messages will be delivered to men from our men’s catalogue immediately after your click the "Send the message know!" button.
If you have just registered, then men will receive notifications of your messages only after your presentation is activated by the InterFriendship Team (usually, data verification and processing take 2 to 3 days). Until that time your messages will have "waiting" status on InterFriendship server.
After you have wrote a letter though the catalogue to a man you liked this man will get a notification that a message addressed to him was received, with your personal identification code (including a link to your profile) and the header of your message specified therein. The body of your message and your private photos attached thereto are not yet visible to the man. Now your potential partner has an alternative to choose whether to:
- Pay a certain amount to get your message and your contact details, in which case the message status in your "Contacted men" folder will change to received.
Now the man can read your letter and if he likes it he will contact you by e-mail that you specified during registration, or by phone or via Skype, if you specified your phone number of Skype user name in your questionnaire. - Refuse buying your message and delete it from his inbox, in which case the message status in your "Contacted men" folder will change to refused.
This means the man is not interested in further correspondence with you. - Postpone his decision regarding buying or rejecting your message for some time, in which case the message status in your "Contacted men" folder will change to waiting.
If within 3 weeks the man does not confirm that he will buy you contact details, your message will be automatically deleted from his inbox. At the same time the status of the message changes to "no reaction".
| Attention! Unfortunately, we can not influence the decisions of our dating site users and we can not answer the question "Why aren’t men answering to me?" If you receive no reply from one man, try sending a message to another one. Our men’s catalogue is updated on a daily basis! | |
We wish you success in online dating!
Click "Contacted men" on the navigation panel on your personal "My IF" page to view messages you have sent to men from our catalogue, the time when a particular message was sent and the status of that message (received, waiting, refused or no reaction).
Attention! Through our catalogue you can send only one message to every man. Any further messages between you and any man will be sent directly through your personal e-mails.
Unfortunately, we can not influence the decisions of our dating site users and we can not answer the question "Why aren’t men writing/answering to me?"
Visit our men’s catalogue to find approximately 10.000,00 profiles of single men from Germany, Austria, Switzerland and other West European countries, such as Northern Italy, Holland etc. All men in InterFriendship catalogue are REAL! If you receive no reply from one man, try sending a message to another one. Our men’s catalogue is updated on a daily basis!
Maybe, you choose not the right type of men?
| Important! Before writing a message to a man you like, read carefully his profile to find out what kind of partner he is searching. As a rule, western men clearly state what they want and rarely change their preferences. | |
More information you can find in the section "The way to successful online dating".
We wish you success and hope you’ll meet the man of your dream!
Dear Ladies,
Please, note that men using InterFriendship dating site have to pay for all services!
After you have wrote a letter though the catalogue to a man you liked this man will get a notification that a message addressed to him was received, with your personal identification code (including a link to your profile) and the header of your message specified therein. The body of your message and your private photos attached thereto are not yet visible to the man.
To read your entire message and get an opportunity to send you a reply, men have to buy your e-mail address, and your message will be delivered automatically together with your e-mail.
Detailed information you can find in the section "The way messages sent to men from the catalogue are delivered".
| Sometimes men get hundreds of messages in their inbox. Obviously, they can not buy all of them, and that’s why men don’t have an opportunity to send a polite refusal. So, please don’t be offended or feel hurt, if you receive no reply to your message sent through InterFriendship men’s catalogue. | |
Sometimes it happens that a man buys your message, reads it, looks through your photos from Personal Photo Album and … feels disappointed.
A message of 1-2 senseless lines, the woman in the photos looking differently than in her InterFriendship profile – all this makes his desire to send even a short refusal disappear.
So, dear ladies, try to make your introduction letter interesting and intriguing enough to cause interest in men!
Helpful information you can find in the section with tips for writing your first message to a western man.
We wish you success and interesting communication with InterFriendship users!
VIP members pay an extra fee to add additional features to their presentation. For example additional photos, longer personal text and the possibility to verify their own identity.
Men marked as "VIP" normally take their search for a partner very serious. This might be an indication for you, that these men are really looking forward to a long-term relationship and not "just fun".
After a VIP has verified his identity by sending documents to interfriendship, the member is marked as a "verified member". This means that we have checked that name, address and photo of the man are real and no fake.
Yes, answering messages from men is mandatory! You must reply to the first letter of all men who buy your e-mail – it’s an essential condition if you wish to have your profile with InterFriendship dating site!!!
Of course, you are free to decide whether your reply will be negative or positive, but still men must have confirmation that their messages have been received by the addressee, i.e. you!
| We reserve the right to delete your profile from our dating site, if InterFriendship male users complain that their first letters are ignored, i.e. you do not reply to them! | |
Why?
If men receive no reply to their letters, they think that profiles on our dating site are fictitious. This can harm our reputation that we have been building up for already 16 years of InterFriendship existence. We will not permit anyone to jeopardize our reputation.
Tip!
If you don’t like the man who has send a message to you NEVER reject him by saying that you already have a boyfriend, since in this case your profile will be deactivated and labelled "found a partner".
There are plenty of reasonable excuses to reject men you don’t like, e.g.
"You are not my kind of man",
"I don’t like you",
"There’s a great age gap between us",
"I’m seeking a man without children",
"I’m seeking a man from a large city",
etc.
| Important information: Western single men would rather prefer a polite refusal than no reply at all, since at least they would know that you are a real person with real wishes and preferences, but not a "fabricated virtual profile". | |
Thank you for your understanding!
All messages from InterFriendship male users will come to the e-mail that you specified during registration at our site.
If you have several e-mails, please specify one of them in the "Other e-mail address" field so that men could use an alternative e-mail to contact you in case of any troubles with your primary e-mail.Additional InterFriendship services
Please, note that InterFriendship Matches per e-mail and private messages from men are DIFFERENT things!
InterFriendship Matches include automatic selection of new profiles and profiles of the most active male users. These e-mails are sent automatically by InterFriendship software.
You may, but are not obliged to send a message to anyone you like from InterFriendship Matches. If you send a message through our men’s catalogue, this means you have looked though that man’s profile, liked him and decided to take the first step to get acquainted with him.
You will have more chances, if you take the initiative and try to strike up an acquaintance instead of just sitting and waiting for romantic love, when the man from your dreams finds you among thousands of dating sites. Take the initiative! Send messages to men through our dating catalogue!
Over 10.000,00 single men from Germany, Austria, Switzerland and other West European countries are placed their personals in InterFriendship dating catalogue. And all these men are REAL!
IMPORTANT! Before writing a message to a man you like, read carefully his profile to find out what kind of partner he is searching.
| Usually, you will receive 1-3 InterFriendship Matches e-mail(s) a month, and NO InterFriendship Matches e-mail can be repeated manually upon your request, if you delete some e-mails. | |
If you occasionally delete your last InterFriendship Matches e-mail, you may go to our men’s catalogue and look through its first pages to find new profiles.
You MUST reply to ALL our male users only if a man sends a private message to you (i.e. man’s e-mail or name appears in the From field) after having paid for your e-mail. Of course, you are free to decide whether your reply will be negative or positive, but still men must have confirmation that their messages have been received by the addressee, i.e. you! We reserve the right to delete your profile from our dating site, if InterFriendship male users complain that their first letters are ignored, i.e. you do not reply to them! | |
Sometimes when trying to access the profile of the man you like you see a message that no such profile exists. This can be due to several reasons:
1. You copied and pasted a wrong code. Please, verify that the code is correct.
2. The man has closed his profile due to any reasons.
3. The man didn’t check his inbox for more than 7 days and his profile with photos was automatically deleted from our dating site until confirmation is received that he is really interested in our service.
So, dear ladies, all men from InterFriendship catalogue are relevant, real and still single!
Don’t lose your chance to change your life! :-)
And we will try to help you.
Dear Ladies,
If you are planning to come (or have already come) to Germany, Austria or Switzerland in connection with your job (a business trip), studies (language courses), or just to visit your friends or relatives, etc., take advantage of this opportunity to meet a western man!
Tell us in good time about your trip to one of the said countries and we will organize special promotion for your InterFriendship profile!
With special promotion you will receive more letters and offers of a real-life date from men and thus will have an opportunity to meet a western man in real life. The fact that you’re close and a real-life date may occur very soon, will make your profile more popular among InterFriendship male users.
Be active and send messages to western men from InterFriendship dating site! Don’t forget to say in the topic of your message that you’re near at the moment.
You may use the following topics for your messages:
- Ich bin momentan in Deutschland;
- Ich komme bald nach Berlin;
- Ich besuche meine Freundin in Oesterreich;
- Liebe Gruesse aus Bozen;
- Ich bin im Februar in der Schweiz;
- etc.
See section with tips for writing your first message to a western man to find out about the best structure of your first message to a western man.
Don’t miss your chance to meet a western man during your trip to his country! Some hours of a tete-a-tete conversation are much better than exchanging messages!
In addition to our main catalogue, profiles of women going to Germany, Austria or Switzerland are also displayed in a special InterFriendship gallery until women leave the foreign country and go home. This enables every male user to quickly find women who will come (or have already come) to his country or even to his city. An opportunity to have a quick real-life date gives InterFriendship male users additional incentives to buy the e-mails of women they like.
Our experiences shows that Special Promotion InterFriendship is very successful: approximately 50% of women, who tell us about their forthcoming trips abroad, close their presentations soon with a tag "I found a partner". :-)
This can be explained by the fact that your trip to the country of your potential partner makes a real-life date to occur faster.
We need the following data to arrange special promotion for you:
- country you are going to visit (Germany, Austria or Switzerland);
- city or region (land, canton);
- exact dates of your trip: from ... to ...
- purpose: business trip, private visit, studies, tourism, etc.
Important information!
If you fail to provide any of the aforementioned data, we will not be able to fill in a special promotion form and the program will reject it.
Also, we will not place presentations without photos in InterFriendship special promotion gallery.
Here are some tips:
take good photos, spare neither time nor effort to have excellent photos on InterFriendship dating site. See section "Requirements to photos" for more information.
tell us in advance that you are going to visit Germany, Austria or Switzerland _ 1-1.5 month(s) before you take your trip. In countries where people make plans for years ahead, it is unlikely that someone will be enthusiastic that you will come "tomorrow for 2 days".
Good luck with online dating on InterFriendship!
Send information for special promotion
We help women from Eastern Europe to meet men from Western Europe by:
- placing their presentations on InterFriendship dating site free of charge;
- giving them a chance to exchange messages with western men through our men’s catalogue.
We don’t arrange real-life dates with men!
To make your partner seeking experience interesting and successful, please study our Support pages, first of all, read sections "The way to successful online dating" and "Requirements to photos".
Tips how to arrange your first real-life date with a western man are available in section "First date with a man: where and how".
«What dressing style to choose for your first real-life date with a western man», «Financial problems and discussing them a man», «Different mentalities, or we are not them» - these and other similar issues are discussed at our women’s forum in section 2.
We wish that your dream to meet a western man and have a happy family with him come true as soon as possible!
In our Ladies forum you can read love stories of our successful users, find out about the latest news and updates of our dating site, ask for advice or information about life and integration in the Western Europe, or just seek some friends.
You are welcome!
Technical troubles
Please, click "Password forgotten?" on the navigation panel, enter your e-mail address and click "Continue". Then just follow our instructions.
Information will be send to your e-mail address submitted during registration at our site.
Before you report any technical faults on InterFriendship dating site to our Support Center, please carefully study the information and recommendations in this section!
What Cookies are and how to delete Cookies?
What Cookies are and how to delete Cookies in different web-browsers (e.g. Internet Explorer, Mozilla Firefox, Opera, etc.) – this information is available on numerous technical web-sites.
Please, pay attention that Cookies can cause certain troubles when you visit our dating sites or other web-sites, since Cookies are used to save certain information on your computer and can block some programs.
Cookies-related troubles include the following:
- the home page of our dating site is not accessible;
- you are unable to view your profile with InterFriendship dating site and see our ad page instead;
- you are a registered InterFriendship user, but you are unable to send messages to men through our catalogue, instead you see a web-page with an offer to register or enter you ID data (IF-Code and password);
- you receive an InterFriendship Matches e-mail, but can not access men’s profiles by clicking links in the e-mail;
- you send messages to men through InterFriendship men’s catalogue, but you don’t see the web-page with "message sent" confirmation;
- a man specified his IF-Code in his message to you, but you see a message that no such profile exists;
- you are using a public computer and have noticed that your personal page opens automatically as you go to our dating site, i.e. you are not requested to enter your IF-Code and password.
If you have any of the aforementioned troubles or a similar trouble, you need to delete Cookies and temporary Internet files saved on your computer.
After you clean your computer, repeat your attempt to access our dating site.
We hope you’ll enjoy you online dating experience with InterFriendship.
If you have sent a message and received a "Delivery Failure" reply, please check whether you typed the addressee’s e-mail correctly.
If the e-mail is correct, the problem may be because some e-mail service providers block each other’s traffic.
In this case, please use an alternative e-mail with a different e-mail service provider, e.g. if you have your primary e-mail at t-online.de, create an alternative e-mail at gmx.de and use this e-mail to reply.
This might be a way out.
Sometimes our user can see automatic messages about certain features being forbidden. What does it mean and what can you do in such a case?
Prohibition to change your personal data in your InterFriendship profile
In certain cases InterFriendship dating site administrator can prohibit you to change your personal data in your profile. In this case you will see the following message when trying to enter your questionnaire:
«You are not allowed to change your personal data.»
Possible reasons for such prohibition:
1. You have entered incorrect data into one or more field(s) of your questionnaire on InterFriendship dating site:
- name
- age
- marital status
- children / children’s age
2. You specified your contact details in any text field, which violates InterFriendship terms of use.
3. Any fields in your questionnaire contain unreal information or do not contain any information at all, which provides distorted perception of your personality or of the image of your future partner. For example, you specified your age 35 years, while the age of your child is specified as 25, etc.
If you wish to make any important changes to your questionnaire, please use Support Center Contact Form to contact us and we will help you.
Prohibition to send messages through our men’s catalogue
In certain cases InterFriendship dating site administrator may prohibit you to send messages through our men’s catalogue. In this case when you attempt to contact a man from our catalogue, you will see the following message:
«Sorry, you are not allowed to send messages to men.»
Possible reasons for such prohibition:
You have sent a lot of messages to InterFriendship male users during a short period of time, and many men bought your e-mail. So, InterFriendship administrator will temporarily suspend your access to men’s catalogue so that you would have enough time to answer all messages already received from men.
Sending messages through our men’s catalogue, you insert no text in the body of your messages, whether deliberately or not, or reduce your messages to short "Hi" or ":-)". Since men have to buy your messages/e-mail, they will hardly be happy to receive such short messages.
Useful tips on this issue are available in section with tips for writing your first message to a western man.
If after a certain period of time you still have not established serious online communication with a western man, please use Support Center Contact Form to contact us, and we will cancel restriction on sending messages through InterFriendship men’s catalogue.
InterFriendship dating site includes two sections: for men and for women.
If you receive InterFriendship newsletters with women’s profiles, please don’t blame our administrator or write angry messages to us! The explanation is clear – you have registered in the men’s section of our dating site.
Using Support Center Contact Form, send to us your e-mail, to which you receive unwanted newsletter, and we will delete your male profile.
Unfortunately your government has decided to block mail.ru, yandex.ru. vk.com, ok.ru and other sites as of may 2017.
But email-accounts at mail.ru or yandex.ru (along with associated domains lilke list.ru, bk.ru, inbox.ru, mail.ua, yandex.ua, yandex.by, yandex.kz, yandex.com, ya.ru, narod.ru, ...) can still be accessed from outside the Ukraine and therefore from Gmail servers as an example.
This opens up a rather comfortable way to still receive your mails by creating a Gmail account and importing your (in this example) mail.ru emails in there:
- Create a Gmail account (you will need a Google account for this, if you already own one, you can use your existing Google account, of course). Visit https://accounts.google.com/b/0/AddMailService and just follow the steps.
- After you've created your account and you are inside your Gmail account, click the cogwheel on the right and choose "Settings"
- Click on "Accounts and Import"
- Search for "Check mail from other accounts" and click on "Add a mail account"
- Chose to import your mails (you could use "Link account with Gmailify", but choosing this option won't import your existing mails / receive only new mails)
- Decide wether you'd like to "Leave a copy of retrieved message on the server"
- If you decide to check this checkbox, please keep in mind, that your mail.ru mailbox might run out of memory after some time and then you won't be able to receive new messages.
- If you decide not to check this checkbox, keep in mind, that every message that gets imported into your Gmail account will be deleted in the originating inbox!
- Add a label to your imported mails, so you can spot and filter for those mails easily.
- Proceed with the next step and decide wether you'd like to be able to send mails from Gmail using your mail.ru account.
If you decide to do so, follow the steps and in the end just close the dialog, serach for the mail, Google sent to your mail.ru account (which should appear in your Gmail-account any moment), click the conformation link in there and confirm that your Gmail-account may send mails over mail.ru - That's it, you're done. If someone writes to your mail.ru accout from now on you will receive the mail in your Gmail-account :-)
Please do not forget to change your email-address in your anketa in favor of your new or existing Gmail-address (you may still enter your old mail.ru address as alternative / second email-address)!
Online dating - security measure
Dear Ladies,
Before taking a journey to your new online friend, please study carefully the information in this section!
How to find out whether your online friend really exists; whether he is the man you saw in his profile on our dating site... These and other questions are frequently asked by our female users.
A drawback of online dating is that we don’t know our users personally. We can neither provide you with information about their social and marital status nor even guarantee that the birth dates in their profiles are correct.
Nevertheless, based on our long experience in online dating, we would like to give you some tips how to avoid unpleasant online dating experience.
Of course, it’s up to you to decide where and how you arrange your first date with a man. We can only give you some tips.
Online dating may result in a real-life date in the man’s country.
However, before you start your journey, please be aware that the man you will meet in real life may be far from the image you created based on his messages and photos. Lucky you are if he is that very man!!! What if not?
One more alternative to meet an InterFriendship male user is having a joint vacation on some neutral territory.
What challenges can you face? Unfortunately, among western men there are indecent men who invite a woman to a third country promising to compensate her for flight tickets, hotel, etc. However, having had a nice vacation, such men just disappear without any compensation. Moreover, they can even leave a considerable debt for their woman to pay at the hotel.
So, to avoid such situations, we recommend that you arrange your first real-life date in your city.
First, invite your online friend to your country to get acquainted with him, see his attitude to your children and relatives... If you feel that everything is all right, then you may start packing your suitcases to go to Western Europe ...
Of course, there are exceptional cases when InterFriendship male user due to some reasons, whether personal or professional, is unable to come to you as soon as you would like him to, and you decide to go to his country first. In this case ask him to send you a copy of his ID card!
| Before going to another country leave the personal details of the man you are going to visit to your relatives! | |
All financial matters pertaining to your trip to Western Europe you should decide together with your new friend. As a matter of fact, the man is not obliged to pay for anything; everything depends on your agreements and arrangements …
Usually, InterFriendship male users feel quite ok that they will have to pay for roundtrip tickets and cover expenses connected with the woman’s stay in their country (of course, luxurious hotels or unreasonable shopping, etc. are not included). If your man feels that you are more interested in his finance than in his personality, he may discontinue any relations with you. Therefore, please do not try to get "part" in order not to lose "the whole". Never start your relations with deception.
We wish you success both during partner seeking and after you find your partner!
You have a new online friend, but from the very beginning you feel something is wrong … Try to analyze messages from your new male friend.
You should discontinue any communication, if from the every beginning a man:
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With respect to online dating the "trust but verify" approach is even more relevant than with respect to real-life dates.
Please be careful, if a man:
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If you receive an unpleasant message from any InterFriendship male user, please don’t delete it from your inbox! Forward such message together with that man’s ID in our catalogue or his e-mail to our Support Center.
The policy of our dating agency is to regularly identify flippant users on our dating site. We will be grateful, if you inform us about any messages containing porno photos, or threats or derogatory remarks about you or about women in general, or a request to send topless photos or have phone sex, etc.
Thank you for cooperation.
When you decide to start men seeking through dating sites, you should understand that online dating will always involve certain risk of disappointment. You will never be able to completely verify the reliability of information or photos provided by your new online friend. However, you still do can verify certain information.
Ways to check whether a man really exists:
1. Send a letter to your new online friend by ordinary mail and wait for acknowledgement of receipt. You may send, for example, a nice Christmas or an Easter postcard, or just a postcard with some scenes of your city and some warm words. People in Western Europe still use this to demonstrate attention to each other.
2. If your new online friend tells you his surname and city, you may verify this information using electronic directories.
Search in Germany:
www.dastelefonbuch.de
or
www.dasoertliche.de
Search in Switzerland:
http://tel.search.ch
или
http://tel.local.ch
In addition, electronic phone directories of different countries (the so-called "Gelbe Seiten" or "Yellow Pages") are available at:
www.globalyp.com
Moreover, you may use search engines, such as www.google.com, to search various information about people.
| Please, bear in mind that not all men are included in electronic phone directories! This can be due to some personal or professional reasons, or just due to their unwillingness to publish personal contact information is online directories. | |
Tip: If you do not trust your new online friend from the very beginning (whether because you feel that you should not to or have good reasons to distrust), you’d better reject him in a polite manner and search a partner you would trust.
If you have been exchanging messages for quite a long time and frequently call each other, but he doesn’t even try to speak about a real-life date … Online dating is enough for him … It seems strange. It is unlikely that a man could be really interested in a woman without willing to meet her and see how she lives, get acquainted with her relatives, etc.
Try to take the initiative to convert your online dating in a real-life date and invite the man to visit you. Analyze his reaction. If he refuses or starts giving vague answers and searching for possible reasons to postpone your real-life date to a later date, you shouldn’t waste your time with that man! You’d better discontinue such online dating. Explain your point of view to that guy, say your polite goodbye and start seeking a new potential partner.
However, if the man provides good reasons why he is unable to meet you at the moment, but is glad that you’re willing to have a real-life date with him, consider the following:
- ask him to send you a copy of his ID card or passport;
- before going to another country leave the personal details of the men you are going to visit to your relatives.
We wish you success both during partner seeking and after you find your partner!
Successfully dating! I have found my partner
If you have found the man of your dreams and have married/are going to marry, you should close your profile so that not to give hope to men seeking a female partner through our dating site.
To delete your InterFriendship presentation choose "Remove my presentation" on the navigation panel right on your personal page "My IF". This will take only several minutes.
Attention! Even after you delete your presentation from our dating site, you still may use your IF-Code and password to visit InterFriendship women’s forum. Your experience and advice in the field of western men seeking will be very useful for new InterFriendship users who know little about online dating. Besides, here you can find a lot of useful information about going to Western Europe to start a happy and long lasting relationship with a western man, study languages, immigrate, etc.
We congratulate you and wish you happiness!!!
Dear Lady!
We are really happy that you have found YOUR man, and we wish you happiness, good luck, love and patience! If you have married InterFriendship male user, we will be glad to publish your love story on our dating site. In consideration for your love story we will give you InterFriendship wedding gift of EUR 50,00 to you bank account.
There is a saying "A shared happiness is a double happiness". So, take 20 or 30 minutes to write your unique love story for our dating site: your first message, your first real-life date ... your thoughts, challenges, feelings ... wedding.
Please, e-mail your love story (preferably in German) with your wedding photos, your IF-Code, your husband’s IF-Code and your bank account details to: info@rebyata.com
Many users ask us whether it is really possibly to find a western man through a dating site. Your love story can become an answer to this question, give hope to thousands of single women to realize their dream to have a happy family and make them take the first step to change their lives.
A positive example of your husband will motivate other western men who still doubt about online dating and will help them make sure that East European women are unique and magnificent.
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